Friends Should Pay Full Price

Someone once told me that his worst customers are actually his friends. Whenever a friend calls, the person would always demand the cheapest price for the highest quality product or services.

A good friend opened a restaurant, decided to pay her a visit with my family. The food was good and the service was better. When the bill came, the appetizers was actually free. I returned the bill and asked for the appetizers to be included into the bill.

She was shocked and came out to ask why. I told her that

“Friends should pay full price.”

In any business, its only purpose is to make money for the owners. I went to her restaurant is because I know she needed the customers and the promotion for her restaurant.

If friend opens a business and I know I have a need for their goods or services, I will become their customer and I aways pay full price. If the owner wants to return the favour, I would prefer better customer service, honest sales opinion or feedback.

I am not a business person but I understand that running a business requires a leap of faith and loads of support. For me, seeing a friend becoming successful is the best thing that we can do for them.

This is how we surround ourselves with successful people.

The One Sentence That Everyone Should Say More

It is report card day, my kids and I was sitting in the classroom waiting to be called by the teacher. We sat near the door and we can see other parents and children walking past discussing the report cards.

I saw a parent in a firm tone telling the child,”This is just not good enough.”. The poor kid was trembling in tears, she was biting her lips and shaking her head. At that time, I felt tears well up in my eyes as well.

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You are just not good enough.

We are all never good enough. Every day, the world tells us that we are not good enough. In the office, at home, on the internet, on the radio, and on the TV.

“I am sorry, I do not think you are suitable for this position”

“Your exam results could be better”

“You could have written a better report”

“Buy our toothpaste, your teeth would be cleaner and  whiter”

“This brand new car model is definitely better than your daily old ride”

We are not good enough, so we need to buy more things to improve our life. We are not good enough, so we need to be more productive to achieve more with our hours. We are not good enough to get what we want, we need more money.

No one would deliberate made an effort to screw up. No one would deliberate made an effort to disappoint you.

We can never be good enough for everyone. That’s a fact. A good enough parent may not be a good enough employee. A good enough student, may not be a good enough friend. My good enough is not the same as your good enough. Yet, everyone has an expectation from everyone.

“Not good enough” has given us technology, wealth, and comfort. Yet, has “not good enough” brought us happiness?

Have we ever said to others and ourselves, “You have given it all, you are good enough”?

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It is my turn, the teacher called my kid’s name. I wipe the tears and sat in front of the teacher. I cannot remember what was discussed between myself and the teacher.

As I was walking out from the classroom, I told my kids.

“As an individual, you both have worked hard. Of course, there are things to improve. However, as for today, you are good enough.”

What A Lost Little Bird Thought Me About Life

A little bird flew into a room and hit the window. It tried flying up, it did nothing but pressing against the glass. It tried flying sideway, it did nothing but pressing against the glass.

I witnessed it all. I tried to lead it back to the door where it flew in. Now matter what I tried, the little bird  kept flying against the glass. The bird is getting desperate and so was I. The little bird may have hurt itself. I decided to switch off the lights in the room and see what happens. Hoping that the outdoor sunshine through the door would attract its attention.

It works! The bird saw the door and it flew out.

I do not know what inspired me to switch off the lights. In fact, I was worried that it will only make the little bird more desperate.

Is there a lesson here? Since young, many of us grow up listening to stories of grit and resilience. Work hard enough, you will soon overcome the obstacles. I even listen to podcast everyday to keep myself motivated. Do not give up. You can do it. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

What if we are like the little bird pressing against the glass? It is a no win scenario. By the time we realize it, it could be too late. We are too broken and too tired to try an alternative solution.

The glass can represent many things in life. A hopeless relationship. A dead-end job.  A bad investment.

Who can help us to switch off the lights in life to show us the path to liberation? Maybe, we need a retrenchment to realize that the job is going nowhere. Maybe, we need to be heartbroken to realize the relationship is not worth the pain.

We all need a loud wake-up call. To wake-up from the false dreams, take another path and start living. It is never easy and downright painful but it is something that many of us need. Someone, something to throw us into darkness, so that we can see the lights from the exit.