You stayed on at the task long after everyone has gone home or went to bed. You check and triple check the work. You said no to your friends when they ask you to hang out. You want to give whatever that you are doing your best. You believe in hard work and you believe in whatever that you are doing.
The moment of truth has come. You are smiling and feeling confident. Boom! The sponsor said no. The supervisor said no. The manager said you need to re-evaluate your thought process and way of working. They did not see your hard work, they only see where you have fallen short.
You squeeze out a smile and say thanks for the feedback. You go through the list, there are indeed gaps and it is long. You close your eyes, wonder about your future and your self-worthiness.
Welcome to the world. When your best is not good enough. Your energy and your focus have fallen short. You are left stranded. You wonder how can you survive.
Do not let the incident strip your identity. When we grow up, we seek attention and approval from parents, teachers, and friends. In adult life, we need attention and approval from managers, parents, mentors, colleagues and friends. If they do not approve, you feel that you have failed them. Shake those thoughts away. What you have achieved are far more than you have failed. You are who you are.
Sometimes failure is mother nature’s way of asking how badly you want this? Sometimes, you have to ask yourself. Is this really what you want? This is probably one of the many setbacks that you will encounter in your journey. Michael Jordan missed more than 9000 shots in his career and he became one of the best basketball player in history. He wants it bad enough and willing to endure all the failures to achieve what he wants.
You are not alone in this journey. It is okay to seek help and ask for help. Successful people surround themselves with people who are smarter to them. Study where you have fallen and work on it. A person can only extend their hands out to you. It is up to you to catch that hand and give you a pull. Reach out to your family and friends.
If you do not have family and friends, talk to your colleagues or someone in the senior position. You will be surprised, how many people out there are willing to give you a helping hand. Even if there none, drop me a comment and let’s explore your problems together.
No one can stop you. No one’s opinion of you can be your reality. For now, you may have failed to achieve what you have set to achieve. The setback is not permanent unless you to let it.
Failure is always an option. Make it part of your life. Standing up in the face of setback and uncertainty is a must.