Could social media such as Facebook be the root cause of your misery? How could it be? Social media is a place that people keep in touch and share their happiness. How could a happy place be the root cause of your misery?
Having someone to share some of their happiness with you is a wonderful thing. When you linger on Social Media for too long, you would feel that everyone seems so happy and successful. It is inevitable that we compare ourselves to others. When there is comparison, so begin the misery.
We wish to have Jeff’s new car, Mary’s holiday trip to South Africa, Tim’s high paying job. Before letting the jealousy creeps in, take a pause and think about the people and yourself. You wanted Jeff’s new car? Would you exchange your whole life with Jeff? The key words here are “whole life”. You cannot have part of Jeff’s life to achieve what Jeff has achieved. It has to be everything.
Someone told me that she wish she could write as much and as well as I do. I told her she can. I gave up my lunch hours to catch up with my work. I would give up TV and Internet, so that I can write. There are times I would write a thousand words and have to delete it all. After listening to my stories, I do not think she is interested in writing anymore.
On social media, people only shows the fruits and results of their hard work. Few show how much they have to go through and sacrifice made to get what they want. A brand new car or a holiday would mean a cutting back other parts of life. A new high paying job could mean less time to relax and more office politics.
Before you wish for anything, ask yourself, is it what you want? Are you willing to give up what you have now?
There is no need to feel jealous. Instead, be happy for that person. Happy that the person is finally getting what they have always wanted. Let that person’s happiness be an inspiration that you too can achieve similar success but in your own way.
If you have to use social media, let it be a place to spread happiness. Be happy for everyone who is sharing their life with you. Yes, be happy for those who are showing off as well.