Guarding The Mind

What is the one thing that belongs to you? Is it your body? Is it your money? Is it your job? Is it your family? The body ages and fall apart despite our constant effort to stay healthy. Materials wealth comes and goes. Family members leave us.

In our limited existence on earth. We have the illusion that we own many things but in reality, we do not. The only thing that is with us 24/7 until we die is our mind.

We work out and eat healthy food so that our body stays healthy. What are we doing to guard our mind? How many times have we said or done things that only to regret it immediately?

Our mind is like the water in a lake. If we stir the water, it kicks up the sands at the bottom of the lake. The lake would no doubt be cloudy. If we keep the lake water still, we can see through the water.

Empty your mind, be formless. Shapeless, like water. If you put water into a cup, it becomes the cup. You put water into a bottle and it becomes the bottle. You put it in a teapot it becomes the teapot. Now, water can flow or it can crash. Be water, my friend.

Bruce Lee

To guard the mind, we have to know the mind. To watch out and to catch the mind when it has unwholesome thoughts.

Be aware of your feelings. Examine yourself, ask yourself how are you feeling? If you are feeling angry, tell yourself you are feeling angry. If you are feeling sad, tell yourself you are feeling sad. We cannot fight feelings but to acknowledge it. Once you recognize your feelings, you will quickly calm down regardless is happiness, sadness or anger.

Write a journal. To be aware of any moments on the fly takes a lot of practices. Every day, spend a few minutes writing down how you feel throughout the day. Those moments may be over, but the journal helps to review the day. You will find emotional triggers. If something or someone keeps triggering your negative state of mind. You will be able to catch the emotions when you are near that thing or that person. A journal will help to identify those trigger.

Be compassion and kind. We are all humans. We all make mistakes. Be compassion and kind to yourself for making mistakes. You can be your own biggest critics, but you do not need to punish yourself. There is a difference between pushing yourself to a higher standard and punishing yourself. The former is about encouragement. The latter is through intimidation.

Avoid excessive alcohol and stay away from drugs. The human life span is short enough. We may die tomorrow. Do not let alcohol and drugs to judge or hamper our mind. Driving under the influence can result in a life time of regrets.

The only thing that we truly own is our mind. Guard it with your life.

Staying Sane While Surfing The Net

The Internet can be a scary place. There are all kinds of negative influence. Instead of listing down on the things that you should or should not see. It is better to certain principle or value that will drive your decision.
Is this spreading kindness and compassion? There are a lot of information or video that spreads hatred and fear. As Yoda says,
“Fear leads to suffering.” Avoid anything that its intention is to spread fear. Fear can be a powerful tool that drives people to make irrational decisions.
Does this align with my personal goals? The 5 minutes cute kitten video on YouTube is a nice break from your busy work. If you are watching it for the last one hour. It is taking an important resource away from you — time! Time is a resource that is irreplaceable. Use the time wisely to achieve your goals.
Is this too much already? To improve life, to achieve your goals. You have to take action. It is important to gather information and knowledge before you take any action. If you are still reading “10 tips to stop procrastination” after having read 5 similar posts, you are wasting your time. Close the browser and start taking action.
Stop reacting. There will be haters and there will be trolls. Their intention is to spread negativity and rile people up to respond. Do not fall into their trap. If something makes you upset, walk away from the Internet and take a walk in the park. There is more life beyond the Internet.

The same post appeared my Quora entry.

Do This Before You Critise

As soon as we wake up, we are destined to be annoyed and disappointed by other people’s action. Someone may cut into your line. A colleague may be speaking loudly on his headset while you are trying to get some work done. Or maybe someone would just make a mess things which seems to be impossible to mess up.

We all have those moments.

Just when you are about to raise your voice. Take a deep breath.

  • No one wants to mess up their own life.
  • No one wants to make the wrong decision.

Whatever the person does, the person believes that the decision is the best decision that they can make. This person may not be able to differentiate right or wrong, wise or stupid. Nevertheless, the person is doing the best. Calling out that someone will not help. In fact, it may only make things worst.

We all have our fair shares of stupidity. Many of us have done things that we regret. We are not stupid. We are individuals who did things that are stupid.

Show some compassion. Show some kindness. Reach out your hand and guide the person. You may have to do this a few times, the person will eventually learn.

Video Recommend: Tim Ferriss’s advice on starting a business or podcast

I have been a fan of Tim Ferris Podcast for a couple of years. Lately, he has been releasing some YouTube videos.

 

I find this video useful and informative. Especially for those who are thinking about starting a business or a blog. It is worth spending 18 minutes of your time. If you like Tim’s video. Click subscribe for his latest updates.

The video is packed with information. The ones that I find useful are:

  • Create your own category. It is difficult to get into a category that is already saturated with players.
  • Scratch your own itch. Create a product or service that you cannot find on the market.
  • Track your performance and do the important thing first.
  • Do NOT get busy for the sake of being busy. Follow the 80/20 rules.