To feel fulfilled in life is to know that you have done something right. Inside your heart, you know you did well. It is a feeling that comes from within your heart and you do not need the acknowledge or the applause from others. That’s fulfilment.
What are the right things to do?
Help someone or do charity work. By donating your time and energy to a good cause. You know you are doing something good and making an impact. The impact can be in someone’s life. Or it can in the environment. Something that can bring joy, happiness, compassion to the people. A small plant will need time to grow into a big tree. You may not necessarily see the immediate results of your effort, but you will know that you have already make a difference. That feeling in your heart, it is fulfilment.
Smile at yourself and smile at someone. If you do not have the time or energy for any volunteer work. Make an effort to smile. Smile at someone. Smile at yourself. Smiling is contagious. Smiling can make a difference. Smiling may even save someone’s life. There was a person who killed himself by jumping off the Golden Gate bridge. On the suicide note, he said he would not have jumped if someone had smiled at him that day.
In order to feel fulfilled in life. There is no need for big crazy ambition or adventure. If you can live life with kindness, compassion and wisdom towards yourself and others. You are already living a fulfilled life.
I admit it. I am always tired. There are many things in my mind. Issues at work. Issues at home. Ideas to start a side hustle. My next workout.
Sometimes I lie in bed and I cannot fall asleep. Sometimes I can knock myself out in seconds laying my head on the pillow. Going to bed and falling asleep is like playing the lottery.
Sleep should come naturally. And it should not be stressful.
Here is what I have been doing and I hope it works for you.
Surrender yourself. The harder you try to fall asleep the more awake you get. Surrender yourself to the bed and surrender to your breathing. If your mind wanders, bring it back to the breathing. Feel the fine fabric touching your skin. Appreciate the moment and grateful that you have a bed to lie into.
Read a book. During my schooling days, I hate to study. I hate books. Books make me fall asleep. Before you go to bed, pick up a good book to read.
Cut back on screen time. Cut back on TV, computer and telephone. The blue light from screens, actually tells your brain that it is daytime. This is why your brain cannot fall asleep as it believes that it is still daytime. Switch off those devices as early as possible.
Plan your tomorrow. By planning your tomorrow, you will also put down all your worries into your planning. By having a sense of control and action, you will have less to worry. Thus sleep will come easier.
Go to bed, if you are so tired that you can only play with your phone or watch TV. There is no point staying awake as you are not being effective. Sleep is the best form of relaxation.
Go to bed at the same time. If you go to bed at the same time. You will tell your body that it is time to sleep. The body is a wonderful machine, it will get itself ready. Talk to your body and listen to your body
Go to bed. I know this is a no-brainer. There is a period where I cannot fall asleep is because I did not go to bed! I was too busy playing games. If you want to fall asleep, go to bed.
Sleep is mother nature telling us to rest so that we can prepare ourselves for a longer and tougher journey ahead. It should not be a luxury. Enjoy sleep, and enjoy waking up. YOur sleep quality will determine the quality of your day ahead.