Many say they love life. But do they love death? Probably not. But to love life, we must also love death. Without death, there is no life. Without sadness, we will not appreciate the moments of happiness.
We have to embrace what life throws at us. Accept things that we cannot change. And change things that we can change. The only things that we can change are ourselves.
Life will sting and it will kick you in the gut when you least expected. The universe is not against you. Life is not against you. Things just happen. Both good and bad. Appreciate the moments that things are going well. Appreciate the moments that things are going bad. Nothing last forever. Happiness does not last. Sadness does not last.
This is not about giving up. It is about accepting that bad thing will happen and doing something that is within our power to make a change.
Imagine someone offers you your dream job to you and you can start immediately. You must be excited. But are you ready for your dream job?
If you are ready for your dream job. Do this exercise. Get a piece of paper and start writing down, exactly how ready you are for the job. Be honest!
When you are done with the exercise, go through the list. Realistically are you ready?
If you are not ready. Do you know your gaps? Do what is necessary to breach the gap. Read books. Take courses. To test your understanding, imagine you need to teach the knowledge to a group of newbies. If you are stumped in any of the topics. It is probably wise to revisit the topic again.
If you are ready. What are you waiting for? The masses want you to stay where you are. They tell you stories about gatekeepers who will stop you from pursuing your dreams. They may be gatekeepers, but there are also other platforms for you to shine. Write on LinkedIn. Write on Medium. Start your own blog or YouTube channel. None of it requires the gatekeeper’s approval. The only thing is you need to create quality content.
The prison that you created is all in the mind. There no locks. You are free to leave, but you must be ready. Know yourself and take what life has to offer to you.
Winston Churchill was the Prime Minister of the United Kingdom during World War 2. Leading a country that is at war against evil and sending young people to their death for a greater cause is a job that not everyone can shoulder.
How did he manage the stress without breaking down? Besides cigar and whiskey. Winston Churchill is also a self-taught painter. During World War 2, he has only known to paint one painting. Nevertheless, it does tell us that despite the chaos and stress, Winston Churchill would still find ways to decompress. When is the last time we have anything that is creative? Doing something without worrying about comments and expectations?
Yes. We are constantly battling something. Be it our inner demons of addiction. It could be a side hustle which you hope it can replace your full-time job.
Learn to take breaks. It is okay to tell yourself that you will take it slow for the next couple of hours. In life, there is no finishing line. As you pause, you can recalibrate, reload and engage.
Nike says it well, “Just Do It”. By doing it, you gain experience. By doing it, you know where is your shortfall and learn from it. By doing it, you know whether you like it.
It is easy to dismiss yourself to be too old, too inexperienced, too rich, too poor to do anything. Many times, the things that you wanted is always on the side of what you fear most. Instead of faking it till you make it. You have to face it till you make it. Face the challenge. Face the doubtful. Face the negativity.
I started this blog is to inspire those who felt trapped in their 9 to 5 jobs and dream of something more. I too am trapped. I am not able to offer you a silver bullet. What I can offer is something that has worked for me. Which in turn, I hope it can work for you too.
I believe in taking action. Taking action to do what you want to do. Taking action to learn what you need to learn. There is no such thing as too late. Do it today. Do it now.
Have I succeeded? Have I gotten myself out from the 9 to 5 grind? No. Not yet. At least I can tell myself – “I am doing it”. So take action now.
I have no idea when the e-mail function Blind Carbon Copy was invented. Personally, I find this feature brings more problem than it solves. Whether you are a recipient of BCC or a sender, it creates problems down the road.
Lost of trust. I received an e-mail from a colleague providing feedback on how I do my work better. I accepted wholeheartedly and thank for the feedback. Later I received the same e-mail from my manager demanding me to put the feedback on my performance checklist and create a timeline. My manager was not on the mailing list. Thus, the manager was on BCC when this colleague sent the e-mail to me. Since then, I kept this colleague at arm’s length. I do not trust this person.
You do not have the full picture. I received my share of BCC emails. I am careful not to reply or take part in the e-mail discussion. If there is a follow-up discussion in the mail, I will not have the visibility, as I was BCCed! If you choose to respond. Your team will wonder how did you found out. Good luck in gaining their trust again. Your action may not even be appropriate as the matter could have been closed but you were not informed.
The only time I use BCC is when I need to send the e-mail back to myself for records.
Be careful of people who frequently use BCC. You are probably being manipulated without knowing.